Parenting Opinions

I will always condemn this type of parenting, as it only raises sneaky and rebellious children. Take it from me: a former sneaky and rebellious child. 

The idea behind the authoritarian parenting style is that if I punish bad behavior harshly, and only allow my child to be who I want them to be, they will succeed in life. 

This is such a shitty way to parent. I cannot imagine wanting to control my child to the point where they don't even know who they are anymore. One of the worst things about this style of parenting is that children are often never rewarded for good behavior, only punished for bad behavior. The parents often have extremely high expectations yet provide very little in the way of feedback and nurturing. 

Not to mention that these types of parents often refuse to explain the reasoning behind their strict rules or punishments, often using the phrase, "because I said so". 

As a result of this, most children raised in an authoritarian household will grow up to have poor self esteem, they will often associate obedience and success with love, conform easily, act fearful of others, and struggle with self control. Nice. 

Children raised this way are not encouraged to explore and act independantly, so they never learn how to set their own limits and personal standards. 

So if we know all this to be true, why do some parents literally brag about being authoritarian parents? I honestly think that some people literally have children so that they can have something to control. They're narcissists that want a puppet. 

Now, I plan on homeschooling all of my children. I've even considered unschooling. Not sure I've even decided yet. I like the idea of unschooling because children have a natural desire to learn, and I support my children learning what they want to learn. I think forcing children to learn about things they don't need to know (yet) or stuff they don't want to learn about actually deters them from learning. It hinders that natural desire to know more. If they associate learning with negitivity